Comments on: When life gives you Lemons…

By: cajunvegan

cajunvegan — Sun, 23 Nov 2008 22:09:15 +0000

I’m not evil. I’m … No, wait, I am evil.

Voodoo … it’s what I do.

By: poppingbubbles

poppingbubbles — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 22:03:56 +0000

Huge hugs honey! I am so sorry, getting fired sucks but I think in the long run you will be so much happier! You have been so unhappy and have needed to leave that negative environment for your physical and emotional well being!

I’m sure there is something wonderful and exciting waiting around the next corner!

XOXOXO

By: cbown75

cbown75 — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 23:49:56 +0000

I am glad you are out of there. You should do what the law allows. But for you personally you should find a nice calm place to be. Not good to go into an interview with a lot of anger. They will ask you about what happened and at least for me, that always comes through. So make sure to come up with your “story”, practice it and find a happy state of mind to go to when you tell it. Unfortunately I have had to do that in the past few months and was super pissed at the old company.

But you will be ok. Do what you need with the old company but be sure to look forward and do the best you can for you and the spawn.

Glad you are out and hope the drama dies down a lot for you.

By: zengoddessjen

zengoddessjen — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:37:54 +0000

I am TECHNICALLY out of there already Miss Attitude. I was sent home for “a couple days” so I didn’t feel harassed and was basically told that I won’t have a job when that couple days is over. Stupid, stupid move on his part as that is just FURTHER harassment. I filed a right to sue with the Labor Board today, have started pulling together all of my documentation and will be filing a suit once I find something else. It’s not about the energy, it’s about the principal and the fact that they have been getting away with this behavior for too long. But first, I take care of ME

By: Miss Attitude

Miss Attitude — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 20:29:26 +0000

That is horrific! You are right your employer has a legal obligation to keep you safe at work and free from harassment, but I’m sure fighting that one is worth more energy than it’s worth. But I do like your Hulk-like mentality.
I think you are right, this is motivation to activate the troops.

I want you to get out of there as soon as you find something! I wish there was something I could do to help you. *hugs*

By: tinyshrimp

tinyshrimp — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 16:28:44 +0000

*big hugs* You know I’m here for you. Just a phone call away.

By: On a limb with Claudia

On a limb with Claudia — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:32:32 +0000

This happened to me.

Exactly. the. same. thing.

I was tossed out so hard I have scars from the road rash. It was a horrible horrible thing to happen to a very nice girl. As this is a horrible horrible thing to happen to you.

And? The economy was horrible. And? I had no family to help me. And? I could barely walk from my spinal cord injury that was worsening.

And?

It was the best thing that ever happened to me. I wouldn’t know you if they hadn’t tossed me out. I would never have been a therapist, met my husband, and learned….

….that my precious hours and time are worth more than being treated like this.

(Of course, I spent about a decade imaging the painful death of each of the players in my fate. In the end, this world brought them greater pain and misery than I could have imagined. Such will be true for your boss.)

You know where you want to go. Get going.

I’m here for you.

By: sorenj

sorenj — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:15:28 +0000

Obviously you have your priorities in order (troops, resumes, canvasing, et. al.) so… I say get wit the voodoo too!!!

By: Telemill

Telemill — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 05:00:33 +0000

OK. First of all. I’m sorry this happened to you, but in a way I’m glad too — because you need to get away with this toxic environment (especially, because you are a mother and these people are draining you of all your spiritual energy). And you need that energy for your child. So wipe your hands on each other and — good riddance to THAT.

Now, be really mad at them for all of 12 hours. You have permission. Be angry with yourself for putting yourself in that position (you have 12 hours). Be angry with the situation. Then set it aside.

Yes, you are doing the right thing. ALL your effort should be in getting a new job, and filing for unemployment and taking care of you and your child. Promise yourself . . . I WILL NEVER ALLOW MYSELF TO BE IN SUCH A TOXIC ENVIRONMENT EVER AGAIN.

How do you do this?
1. Promise yourself that no matter how difficult it is, you will save 5%-10% of your income and set it aside as your “I’m NOT taking this fund”. When you have 4-6 months worth of expenses saved up, you are then in power and you can QUIT whatever job which turns toxic on your in the future.

2. Promise yourself when you interview for a job, you will NOT be desperate enough to take ANYTHING . . . you will make sure the environment is healthy and pleasant.

3. Promise yourself that THIS is your opportunity to make you life sooooo much better! AND DON’T LOOK BACK.

Leave those crazy-ass people to themselves. Don’t waste not ONE bit of energy getting back, getting even, getting involved with their crap. They are going to self-destruct . . . believe me on this . . . make sure you are far, far, far, far, far away when detonate.

You will be fine. Love and kisses
Telemill